Here’s some excerpts:
Your Parents Did the Best They Could
I never liked how my father raised me. He was an ex-Marine drill sergeant and a former professional boxer. He treated me like a drafted recruit in World War II. I grew up resenting the beatings, the discipline and the constant terror.
A friend of mine in college shocked me when he said, “Your father could have tossed you in a garbage when you were a baby. He didn’t. Her raised you the best way he knew how.”
I’ve since learned that all parents are winging it. None of them went to parenting school. Few of them read parenting books. Most of them raise their kids either the way they were raised or the opposite of the way they were raised. None of them raised their kids with ill intent. They were doing the best they could.
Your parents did the best they knew how to do, based on their beliefs, upbringing, and best guess about how to handle you.
Forgive them. Understand them. Love them. All they want from you at this point is to know that you understand they did the best they could. Tell them so. Don’t withhold the very thing they long to hear.
Your Children Will Become What They Become
How can you tell if your child will grow up to be the next Dalai Lama?
My sister has twins. They were raised in the same environment, by the same parents, had the same teachers in schools, and dated sisters.
In spite of that, they are completely different in personalities and goals.
Water your children with love and allow them to grow as they choose.
And be sure to give them each a copy of this manual. (I will, when I have kids of my own)
I began scouring the Sephora website the other day looking for The One, and came across this from Too Faced. It’s pink alright, but I haven’t heard of the brand name before and I was intrigued by the “teddy bear hair” so I googled it up, and found the website (it’s a really cute website anyway. Here, take a look!)
“I created my “Teddy Bear Hair” brushes using the world’s most luxurious synthetic hair that grabs and blends pigments so perfectly you’ll look like a star every time you use them. In fact I worked with a wig manufacturer to get it as soft and silky as real animal hair, without any of the cruelty involved. They last longer than traditional “real hair” brushes and won’t spread bacteria! [more..]“
…I was hooked on! Of course the reviews at MUA helped a lot too.
Anyway I got myself one, thanx to eBay (Sephora doesn’t ship internationally btw) and Leen for her credit card!! Anddddd OH. MY. GOD. I love ’em! It’s not just about the cuteness and pinky-ness (I didn’t know the metal ferrules are pink as well coz they look like silver in the websites) but these brushes are super soft and incredibly silky that I couldn’t help but play around with ’em. They pick up the right amount of makeup and blend nicely too, so that’s just awesome. This is by far my ‘bestest’ makeup investment!
He’s probably lost, was what I had in mind.
“Kak, saya lapar. Dari pagi tadi saya tak makan apa lagi. Duit takde.. Saya kerja kat kedai mamak depan KLCC ni tapi dorang tak kasi makanan….”
I don’t know any kedai mamak and I wasn’t sure if he was telling the truth, but he looked desperate and I felt pity for him so I reached out for my wallet inside my bag…
“10 ringgit cukup tak?”
He nodded and when I handed him the 10 ringgit note, he broke into tears.
And then the unexpected thing happened.
He shook my hand and he kissed it. I was astounded.
Terasa macam hari raya pulak….